Is it abuse?

Have you ever been:

  • Embarrassed by name calling or putdowns?
  • Looked at in ways that scare you?
  • Controlled with what you do and where you go?
  • Stopped from seeing or talking to friends or family?
  • Denied or refused money, or been made to ask for money?
  • Stopped from making decisions?
  • Told you’re a bad parent or been threatened to have your children taken away or hurt?
  • Told that abuse is no big deal, that it’s your fault, or denied it happening?
  • Victim of destroyed property or had the life of your pets threatened?
  • Intimidated with guns, knives, or other weapons?
  • Shoved, slapped or hit?
  • Forced to drop criminal charges?
  • Threatened by your abuser that without you they will commit suicide?

If you answered yes to any of these, you may be in an abusive relationship.

I think I’m ready to leave – what happens next?

Remember – leaving your abuser can be a dangerous time, so make sure you plan for it.

Keep money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra medicines and clothes in a safe place or with someone you trust for when you are ready. Make sure you have a refuge or DV Services phone number close at hand and keep some change or a phone card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.

We have three refuges for women and children who have experienced, or are at risk of, domestic abuse. They offer accommodation and a place of safety where you can rebuild your lives before moving on to independence.

If we don’t have space in one of our refuges, we will find somebody who does. We will never leave you on your own.

Elizabeth House (Newcastle-under-Lyme) 01782 713737 [24 hours]

Julia House (Stoke-on-Trent) 01782 817055 [24 hours]

Lighthouse (Staffordshire Moorlands) 01538 267093 [24 hours]

What other support you can offer me?

Our Sunrise Centre offers a safe and welcoming place for men, women and children who have survived domestic abuse.

Together, we can help you take back control of your life, rebuild your confidence and self-esteem, avoid future abusive relationships, and support you to get back into education, training or employment.

We also deliver our Domestic Violence Recovery Toolkit which is a programme of support, development and counselling to give you the opportunity to share your experiences with others in group workshops.

Male Domestic Abuse victims programme

Alongside local agencies, ARCH will now be able to offer a Male Domestic Abuse victims programme. The programme is open to male victims/ survivors over 18 years old, who are no longer in an abusive relationship. Training, development, recovery and peer groups will be offered as well as legal advice drop-in sessions. To find out more please contact our Sunrise Centre on 01782 222 421.

Arch domestic abuse enquiry line:01782 222421 (8.30am – 5.30pm, Monday to Friday)

National 24 hour domestic violence helpline: 0808 2000 247